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By Dan Hettinger April 4, 2025
Looking for some relief? Want to provide some relief?
By Dan Hettinger September 14, 2024
We can increase our capacity to care.
By Dan Hettinger March 22, 2024
"Greater love has no one than this; to lay down one's life for one's friends..." John 15:13
By Dan Hettinger March 15, 2024
Make a difference in someone's life.
By Dan Hettinger March 15, 2024
I wondered, "Why didn't I know this before?"
By Dan Hettinger March 8, 2024
No, AI can NOT care! It takes a spiritual connection with God and people. God gives us a 'nature' to care.
By Dan Hettinger June 3, 2023
PRESENCE and MEALS are the most highly rated.
By Dan Hettinger January 14, 2023
Are you aware that 1 in 5 of us lives with a mental illness? Is there anything you can do to help? 🤯 With over 200 different types of mental illnesses , each person needs some type of care. Professional care, sometimes with medication, is often needed. But there is one thing we can all do that will make a big difference--offer the ministry of presence. The presence of a trusted caregiver will help professional therapy work better and sometimes it is enough to help people find healing. Continue to read on to and see the story unfold of a man that just needed the power of someones presence !!! I was sitting with a man who was mentally ill but you could not tell it by looking at him. Broken relationships and addiction had wreaked havoc on his young life. Troubled emotions and confused thinking added to his torment. It was complicated so I simply offered my presence. I sat with him. I looked him in the eye, when I could. He often looked at the floor. I asked him open ended questions that gave him the opportunity to tell me his story. I listened to him. When it was appropriate, I repeated what I heard so he would know he was heard and feel validated as a person . " This really helps, " They were his words, not mine. His response was so bold, I was surprised. He continued, "You are not trying to fix me or tell me what to do." His countenance relaxed. He looked at the floor while he was organizing his thoughts but often he looked back at me, and locked in on my eye contact. We were connecting and a tear rolled down his cheek. That was unusual for a man known more for anger than vulnerability. I had the feeling my role was rare in his life. Perhaps no one else was "just" present with him. He wanted to pray!! He wanted to read Scripture!! Preaching or teaching from me was not necessary --just responding to what he asked for. That scenario has repeated itself with the same results throughout my ministry because PRESENCE works! The Ministry of Presence works with the... addicted behavioral and mentally ill the elderly the demented the injured the sick the grieving When you offer presence with someone ill, whatever the illness, or someone in need, whatever the need, your presence provides care that is valuable beyond measure. This emphasis is important because it does not feel like it is enough. We worry about what we will say and fear that we cannot do enough. Sometimes those doubts intimidate us and keep us from offering presence and a caring relationship. There are many unmet needs and lonely people because this ministry is misunderstood and under utilized. But comfort and healing will take place if we just offer our presence. When we practice the ministry of presence our ministries will expand with people saying, "This really helps." They will be open to Scripture and Teaching because someone cared with presence first. Care givers will be encouraged to care more because they will know they have what it takes to make a difference in someone's life. I hope that this post will help many find comfort and healing because more people will be caring better than ever before.
By Dan Hettinger September 18, 2021
You will be called to support people experiencing trauma. It might be a natural disaster, a terror attack, a school shooting or a life changing event with someone close to you. Dr. Kevin Ellers, of the Salvation Army, responds to questions, in a KLOVE interview, about his experience at the collapse of the twin towers twenty years ago. He emphasized the importance of presence, listening and practical support. You can go to the KLOVE website listen to the interview and read from Marya Morgan's blog ( https://www.klove.com/news/closer-look/hot-topx/closer-look-heroes-shaped-by-9-11-lessons-from-the-attacks-on-america-2427. ) " Kevin Ellers, D. Min , was in Kansas City when he was called to the Trade Towers collapse in New York City with The Salvation Army . For two weeks he cried and prayed with people who lost husbands or wives, sons and daughters at Ground Zero. He stood in sacred silence alongside firefighters and chaplains when human remains were found in the rubble of what recovery workers called ‘The Pile.’" (KLOVE Closer Look) Traumas, like many needs that confront a person and a Caregiver, cannot be explained. While trying to regain equilibrium, what the victim needs most is our presence, listening and, maybe, some practical support. A man visited my church recently. His trauma was unrecognizable, but his countenance and body language revealed that he was disoriented and needing some help. Two of my colleagues, on separate occasions, noticed him and offered the ministry of presence and listening. They learned his story and he was thankful to tell it. Even though his trauma continued to rock his world, he was no longer alone. He returned to the men who cared enough to be present and listen. This time he had a confession. "If you had not been here for me, I was going to take my life." "In the months and years after 9-11 Dr. Ellers studied trauma care and critical incident debriefing, eventually designing curriculum with titles like Spiritual First Aid , now used to train first responders internationally. Ellers currently serves as the Territorial Disaster Services Coordinator and Chaplaincy Coordinator for The Salvation Army Central Territory. He has also become a life coach." (Also from, K-LOVE Closer Look) Practicing the basics of presence, listening and offering practical support, will equip every Care Pastor or Care Giver to make a difference in the traumas your people experience. But, there are resources we can use to master our caring skills and train others as we grow our care ministries. Crisis Response Care offers videos, podcasts and the possibilities of college credits with Crown College. When you care, it matters, especially in a trauma. You might even save a life.
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